No contact doesn’t fail

No contact doesn’t fail.

It just doesn’t address the part of you that was trained to survive inside emotional volatility.

So when the silence hits, your nervous system interprets it as danger — not freedom.

The urge to reach out isn’t desire. It’s a stress response.

This is why willpower collapses at night. This is why the body overrides intention.

You don’t need more rules. You need regulation.

URGE INTERRUPTION
When the impulse hits, delay action for 90 seconds. Place one hand on your chest and breathe until intensity drops by even 10%.

That delay rewires the loop.