“It was just a joke.”
How many times have you heard that phrase after a comment that cut you down? Underhanded insults wrapped in humor are one of the Narc’s most dangerous weapons. They test how much humiliation you’ll tolerate while hiding behind a smile.
They laugh, the crowd laughs, and you’re left wondering if you’re too sensitive. But the truth is, those comments are never jokes. They are rehearsed darts aimed at your confidence, designed to weaken your spirit while leaving them untouchable. That’s not humor — it’s manipulation.
A real partner, friend, or loved one doesn’t build themselves up by tearing you down. They don’t disguise cruelty as comedy. The moment you recognize this tactic for what it is, you reclaim your power. Their “jokes” stop being funny the second you stop giving them an audience.
Healing means learning that you deserve respect in every room. Your worth is not a punchline. And when you walk away from those who thrive on making you small, you step back into your full size — unshakable, undeniable, unstoppable.
That’s why the N.O.W. Healing Library and NOW TV exist — to arm you with tools and stories that remind you: you’re not too sensitive, you’re seeing the truth.
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